Thanks Sandi. It may be foreplay for some women, but I don't think I'm M'd to one of them!
You know, on the attraction to her issue, I am actually having to work to keep myself interested in her. And that concerns me. I feel more like I'm fighting to keep my family together rather than wanting my W. I know that sounds bad to say, but it's the truth.
I know some (most/all?) of my feelings are b/c she is not meeting my needs right now and my love tank has been on empty for a while. And, Sara wisely pointed out a few days ago that this is precisely why we do not trust our "feelings." I completely agree on that issue. But, I also know what I feel.
I know those "feelings" are most likely just in hibernation and are waiting for the thaw to re-appear. But, when the thaw happens is out of my hands.