Back from Fabulous MC#2. She wasn't so fabulous tonight. I specifically asked if we could set some signposts, waymarkers, goals, and instead wound up in a kind of round-robin he-said/she-said. Not an utter waste of time (money), but not even a base hit.
Only "thing" that emerged came in response to FabMC#2's question: "How long was it good?"
My response: Good 7 years, pretty good 5 years, not so good since Iraq.
WAW's response: Good 12 years, terrible since Iraq.
FabMC#2: So what do you think of that?
WAW: Oh my god, it was much worse than I thought. That's a total shock to me. That's an eye-opener. I thought things were great, and he was obviously miserable. See? See? We're total opposites. It's like we weren't even in the same marriage.
Oooooo-kay. Different POVs? Nah. Ignore that part. 5+7=12 good? Ignore that part. General agreement on what made bad become bad? Ignore that part.
No, apparently to WAW a marriage is binary. It's either perfect or it's a catastrophe; you're either matched or you're doomed; you either see everything the same way or you're polar opposites.
