It is great that there is so much marriage restoration/DBing advice out there but a lot of it is conflicting and if you try to take in all of it, it is very confusing. And face it. all of the advice will not pertain any one situation. You have to weed one what does not apply to you. At the end of the day it is a decision only you can make.
The way I see it, they walked away, they have to walk back in. Without pursuit, without drama, without R talk. Of their own volition and because they want it. You asked if he chooses her what will you have? Well, I hope you get a new M with him. But you will always have you and your sons. AND you have life and that is full of endless possibilities! If you really are committed to your M do not let the length of the wait get to you. I think the waiting is necessary if they are to clear the fog. What you do while you wait will make or break you.
