I'm new wondering if this works...

[BigJohn]

Nope. He doesn't and the best way for her to see it clearly is to keep your mouth shut. She will do the exact opposite and think the exact opposite of anything coming out of your mouth. You say nothing, she'll see it on her own. Took me a long time to figure that crap out, but my H's OW was screwing with me, sending emails, and text messages but in secret. H was fed up with that crap and then she pulled much much more crap that I couldn't have written it was so bad! But eventually, he saw it for himself. And that's what it's going to have to be for you....W will see it.

Thanks Stronger. You know, I know that instinctively- having 3 sisters of my own- it's just easier said than done! Although my patience has evolved considerably during my sitch it's still painfully hard to wait for my W to figure out the obvious!

Unfortunately, OM is too big of a wuss to even contact me electronically- he likes to hide behind my W's skirt and criticize me in his conversations with her- then I get to hear about it third hand from either my W or my BIL.

Here we go again hijacking Hope's thread. Sorry Hope. Hey Stronger, why don't you drop on by my thread sometime? Appreciate the feedback.