oh, and MB losing weight to get her man, can be in an indirect way, be okay. If she is doing it to take care of herself and be in her best shape and boost her confidence, all that good stuff. Those latter reasons, that come from losing weight-for women- can be part of the reasons that the lbs comes back. it's that confidence and the overall change in attitude, not so much the pounds that brings them back.
if she lost the pounds but still complained about her weight, still hated her body, still lacked self esteem, then her man would not come back. it's all the "side-affects" (for lack of a better word) from losing weight that does it.
I did lose a lot of weight from being depressed those first 2 weeks. although it was a horrible way to lose weight, I am glad because it got me feeling better about how I looked and I did start taking better care of myself, exercising and all that. now since then, due to those aweful holidays, I have gradually packed them back on, but I still love myself and I'm still confident because I have learned those traits thru my sitch. However, I do feel more insecure and so I am back on the road to losing those pounds again, because I know I will be better in bed, better with lots of stuff because I won't be as insecure of myself. yes, tmi, but it's true.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
