Young couple in need of help

[Stronger]

Ok. I understand.

This is what I think you need to do:

Stop snooping. You know it happened, you have the proof and at this point, you aren't going to get an apology, so stop and don't confront her anymore.

Keep things calm and relaxed and no R talk.

I think you two need to sit down and figure out a budget so neither one of you goes crazy and creates a ridiculous amount of debt during the separation.

Start there and see where things go.

[sumguy27]

She doesn't even want to talk with me. She's says that were done through.

[sumguy27]

I feel like just giving up

[sumguy27]

I feel like just giving up

[sumguy27]

Ok I had to take some meds and now restarting to read DR again. I can't give up. I have to stay on track.

[cpfullofhope]

We all have times where we want to give up. You are doing the right thing by picking up DR and trying to get refocused. There was a time that I read that book everyday for like 3 weeks. I had to have something daily to remind me what my goal was. Stay the course and you will be a better person in the end.

[Stronger]

Ditto.

Calm down. Imagine you and your W getting along. Not necessarily laughing it up running across a beach in slow motion, but getting along and all calm. Imagine that and make it happen

[sumguy27]

I got to work and was shaking like crazy. Couldn't concetrate had to call my counselor took my meds and now I'm calming down.

[Stronger]

It's ok. You are going to be better sooner than you think. This is a very very hard time and it's beyond heart breaking. It's ok to have these melt downs.
Just make sure you take care of yourself, and don't get fired.

Also, I recommend you never tell her what kind of physical impact her bs is having. Ok?

Just keep breathing, one foot in front of the other. This is tough, but you are getting better everyday.

[sumguy27]

I know I didn't plan on it but my mother called her the other day to come check up on me. I know my mom means best and of course I know she wouldn't show up. I have to put all my strength to go dark and stop snooping in to her email and myspace account.