He is abusive. I guarantee you, he will try to make you look like a nutjob. It serves his purpose.
You, my dear, are going to have to summon up the strength to stay calm and rational during these sessions. By all means, let loose once you're away from H and the MC, but in MC just listen, breathe, and keep your head in the game. If something feels emotional to you, then you may need to say, "You know, it's hard to say. I'd have to think about that." Something that buys you time to get calm enough to handle it rationally.
Your H treats you like a piece of meat, a plaything to control. He's used to getting his way, and he gets mean and manipulative when he doesn't get it.
You are far more valuable than he treats you. IMHO, this is what Bunny needs to learn and believe more than anything. When you value yourself, you are not willing to put up with *anyone's* BS, not even an H.
Yes, this process is painful, but on the other side you will feel so free, happy and light. Keep up with the IC. Keep working on discovering your value. Keep working on finding your voice and setting boundaries about how you deserve to be treated.
Your H is a miserable man...anyone who has the need to feed an addiction and to control others is not happy.
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
