BTW I spoke with my lawyer for the first time today. I asked him some questions. He made a suggestion to ask my H for one comprimise. My H went OFF FOR AN HOUR yelling at me and accusing me of everything in the book including trying to screw him, threatening to stop trying to "be fair" and just go straight to filing for D, telling me I have no understanding of how hard he works to earn money, etc. Just went off on everything. I tried and tried to get him to stay calm, I stayed calm. It made no difference. He didn't want to be talking to me, didn't want me to hang up. Didn't want me to ask lawyers these questions, didn't want me to ask him.
I know I did my best - short of getting off the phone. I guess it's pretty clear to me that a D is in my own best interest. It's this kind of treatment that has made my M miserable for me for so long.
No appology. I want one. But all I got was "leave me alone" and "don't be at the house when I come over".
I feel like all the work I did the past month to calm him down, get him to come closer, soften up, and talk to me reasonably has gone out the window. I'm so sad.
