breakaway...I don't have any words of wisdom but just wanted you to know I am reading along and praying for you. Regardless of all of your H's back-peddling and going back to the same old tirades, I can also see glimmers of possible change in some of your threads. The key seems to be, from the outside, that when YOU stand your ground and are not afraid of him, he does respond and actually listen to you. Of course, real change for him will take a long long time and will likely be painful for both of you, so its still up to you to decide whether you want to stick around for it or not!
