So, I am very interested in this thread b/c this is a question I have pondered for some time.
So it seems to boil down to attractiveness is the main criteria. Am I getting this right?
Not what about weight? What if the gal is 30 lbs overweight? How about 50 lbs overweight?
What if the person you've been with- no longer wear's contacts b/c their eyes are too dry now, or makeup every other day as opposed to everyday. What if they, IDK, somehow get disfigured or get a hideously short haircut better suited for someone joining the army.
I guess what I am asking is... what if you wife is no longer a beauty? Then what?
(OK, I will admit, the last question applies to me...)
I was always attracted to my wife, no matter how much weight she gained. She's lost 20 pounds this year (walking away, tearing yourself up inside, and not eating will do that)and looks great. But she's by no means skinny. One of the problems we always had, was that no matter how attractive I though she was, she thought she was too fat, frumpy, etc. She had a poor self image and refused to allow herself to feel sexy, because she didn't think she was.
I've seen plenty of obese women who look stunning and sexy, just by wearing well fitting clothes. These women seem to have a positive/confident attitude about themselves, and they seem comfortable with their bodies. So no, I wouldn't say it boils down to attractiveness. Confidence and being comfortable with who you are are attractive in their own right.
