I have lost ALL my self esteem. I feel sorry for my kids. Everytime I get power he breaks me down. Everything I say is wrong..it is his way or the highway. Last night he said again he could not trust me..he said if you said the sky was blue I would look up to see..I said why dont you trust me and he said the marriage is just over. I said you are not going to treat me like this anymore and he says things like I yelled at him or I am crazy..If he would have just told me how he felt and opened up to me when the situation was happening then we would not be where we are today. For 10 years he has done things like said mean things when he was drinking, and then apologized the next day. I have emails from him apologizing..until he stopped apologizing..he blames. he brings up the past. he holds grudges and he takes something that I feel and makes me feel stupid about it..he discounts my feelings..on everything and then blames me later..he goes along with things and then I pay 3 years later. HELP! HELP! HELP! Is there ANYWAY to save this..the book says sometimes done means they are DONE!