I will stay the course- I've come too far this summer in my personal growth and examination to give myself up again. I'm seeing H in a whole new light lately, I'm not liking what I see and that's hard to accept. I'm sure he's not liking what he sees in me too.
Looking on the bright side (assuming I do get divorced)- I'll be an empty nester by the time I'm 44- still young enough to enjoy it!