I've just pushed him too much. This all started four years ago when we moved into this house.
Seems like you recognised this. Me and the Greek had a discussion about this. Sometimes when she tells me about "wanting" to do something she is just dreaming out loud. I view it as something more to put on my "to do" list and it becomes more pressure and stress. A man wants to take care of and provide for his wife. Sometimes it sounds like it will never end to us with all the wanting more. That's the dynamic not the reality but it is "real" when it turns into a snake on the brain. Make sense?
I had this same issue. Every time my w said "We need to go on a vacation" or "I want to add on to the house" my blood pressure went up thinking about how we could ever afford what I saw as her unreasonable and never-ending desires. I too had to realize that she wasn't making demands or even requests, but just dreaming. I had to stop seeing these as that are therefore problems I had to solve, and start joining her in the dreaming.
"Yeah, that would be really great, wouldn't it"
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Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
