Thank you so much for all your good wishes. It always amazes me when you all appear seemingly out of the ether to help or give encouragement to those that need it.

I'm much more positive today. I am still very worried about how I am going to pay my bills BUT I will cross each one of those bridges as I come across them. There is a lot of equity in the house so if I really struggle I will have to sell but it may enable me to buy a smaller house, albeit in not so nice an area, outright. We will see.

BM I didn't know you have been M before. I liked your idea of twirling round the living room. I'm actually thinking of having a 'life begins at 42.5' party in early October once the decree absolute is passed. Am thinking about hiring out a booth ina nightclub and dancing my heart away. It's just an idea at the moment I might feel diferently as the time approaches.

Take care everyone. Guess I need to decide whether to stay here or move onto surviving


Me 43
XH 45
M 2.7.88
Divorce 7.10.09
Kids D20,S17 & D15