Thanks for your candid answer. I agree with Puppy, you seem like you've gotten off the emotional roller coaster, and are now looking at things clearly and rationally.
My W is also claiming things that are either outright untrue or highly exaggerated. I guess that's script in these situations. However, there is one thing she is dead right on, and I carry deep regret for some of my behavior long ago when we first met. She is using that to nullify our whole R and M, which is so obviously just to avoid her own guilt. I've owned how I hurt her, I've apologized deeply and sincerely to her, and I've clearly and consistently shown I'm not like that anymore. What else can I do?
It's time I employed the tried and true Gucci approach. If she decides she wants to work on our R, maybe I will too, and if she doesn't, then it's all over.
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Treat her with grace, civility and forgiveness as you exit, and you never know what the future may hold.
