It can be tiresome to continue to be tested this way and from what I've reading, some wives can push their husbands alot, continuing to see how far they can get away with their crap behavior.
Yesterday's test was: "Oh, sure, I spent months planning and executing Mission Discover Sexuality with Signore Schmuckatelli, but you went and had dinner with Someone, which is obviously much, much worse, and it probably means you told her all our marital secrets and troubles and now I'm completely humiliated and shamed in the eyes of someone I admittedly don't know, but I really don't see that there's any hope at all now of anything because you went to see Someone because you like her and I only went on Mission Discover Sexuality with Signore because I was horny and didn't want sex with you ever, so you're clearly not at all who I thought you were."
Ummm, okay.
So we'll see. 50 minutes of Fabulous MC#2 on tap in less than 12 hours. What should I wear?
No. Seriously. What should I wear?
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As far as the comment about her being so nice to you, I would tell her "...it's not so much me being nice to you, it's me not wasting my energy & rewarding your crap behavior with my attention.
Yyyyeeeeeaaahh, not so much. That's not quite my style of mojo. It's a little....aggressive-slash-'roid-rage for me. I tend to do "cavalier;" for the detective readers out there, I'm more by way of Dash Hammett than Mickey Spillane, if you know what I mean.
I would agree with her "maybe you're right, maybe there isn't hope"
Seriously when you go to the MC session, have her explain this one to you, what you described above about what she said to you & your MC. I would love to hear the rationalization behind this, it's ok for her to have sex with another man because she's horny but you having dinner with another woman was the wrong thing to do? I'm assuming she's had dinner with signor as well - i'm sure they eat, carb load before having sex just because it helps with endurance and all that. Tell her you're doing the same thing, dinner with another woman is you practicing carb loading so that you're ready for the main event afterwards. The WAS mentality never ceases to amaze me with how they can turn things around to make themselves look right even after they admit to things like infidelity. Crazy stuff!
This smacks of... "it's ok for me to do this but it's not ok for you to do this - that's not how this was supposed to work out, you're supposed to be at home, an emotional mess and I'm supposed to be enjoying my life at your expense - you weren't supposed to recover, how did this get turned around against me?!"
Yes I would agree with her, you're not sure there is any hope, you love her but you're not sure you're "in love with her" (turning this around on the WAS always seems to do wonders, it's like spilling a can of coke on a new laptop... BZZZ... ZZZAP... BZZZZ.... smoke.... sparks.... laptop go bye bye).
You use the arguments they used against you because now you're in a position to do it where it holds weight, it actually means something to them, it's not their choice anymore, it's your choice and throws them off, it's not how they pictured it to be.
As for what to wear, just remember what your mother told you, "clean underwear, no rocket burn!", everything else is just extra.
Seriously what would be funny is something that is a little arrogant: jeans with a few tears in them, no socks, flip flops, comfortable t-shirt or long sleeve shirt with rolled up sleeves and 2 buttons undone at the top, with a pair of shades hanging down the middle - of course, hopefully the weather agrees.
SP I'm loving this thread, if you ever turn this into a book it will be a best seller and if so I want my copy autographed.
