Seems like you recognised this. Me and the Greek had a discussion about this. Sometimes when she tells me about "wanting" to do something she is just dreaming out loud. I view it as something more to put on my "to do" list and it becomes more pressure and stress. A man wants to take care of and provide for his wife. Sometimes it sounds like it will never end to us with all the wanting more. That's the dynamic not the reality but it is "real" when it turns into a snake on the brain. Make sense?
Coach, you hit on something here... rather triggered a memory/thought I wasn't thrilled to bring back to current...
I wanted to move to this house because I:
a - loved it b - loved the neighborhood c - didn't want anyone else getting this kitchen! d - and this is the clincher... because I had agreed to consider moving out of state (we even went to Wilmington, NC and the Las Vegas suburbs house/area shopping). My H was DONE dealing w/D18's whack-job, alcoholic Dad, and all of the legal crap that went w/it. We were/are incredibly upstanding parents, and we were in court non-stop, and LOSING time w/her, etc... while he gets a DUI with her in the car! She would sob because she didn't want to go, cling to my H and I when her Dad arrived, no matter what approach we took to making this better. H couldn't stomach or endure the heartache anymore. The court system was truly jaw dropping. This was his/our answer. I chickened out, couldn't move from family, we found this house, and it bought me time as we restored it. Stupid. Again, I did NOT win. I may have the house. I have lost my M in the process. And, D18 won't even see her Dad now.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
