Well H phoned this evening, it really surprised me as there are some key footy matches on tonight. I know I shouldnt have answered really but I needed to know about the mortgage etc, but I let it ring till the last ring and answered it with the telephone number as if I didnt realise it was him.
Turns out he has had a phone call from my sister, now there is no love lost between her and me as my parents are a pair of stirrers and about five years ago, my sister believed I was party to some of their stirring and has refused to speak to me since, except recently at my parents 50th wedding anniversary when she chatted a bit!
He seemed to be giving me the benefit of the doubt and said he knew I wouldnt stir but my mum as usual has combined three pieces of information and made six outta of them, and has rung my sister and told her that I have intimated that my H is having an affair with her and the fraudulant transaction was their date! Which is not one jot at all like I told her lol! I told her about the fraudulant transaction, and how H's card had been cancelled, and how the new payment on our account had two names on, and I thought perhaps he had someone else. Mum said she couldnt believe that, so I told her about how he would hide his FB from me, but he always told me it was only my sister or his old secretary that he was talking to and as he knew I wouldnt like that he hid it! Well you can see from that how it all ended in a pickle!. It didnt even occur to H that the OW could have been his payment set up, but he didnt say there wasnt anyone at all either.
Also sister told him about our elderly freind, H wanted to know would I have told him, which I said as I had been in and out all day, and had only just finished my tea and was expecting him to out watching footy I hadnt even got that far yet! He was asking how I was and what I was doing again and seemed upset that I wasnt giving him any information other than the usual keeping busy, and his strangest questions was "some up days and some down" to which I reply no they are all days ahead of me and Im just taking them as they come.
We talked about the mortgage and his card being cancelled and he asked why I hadnt phoned him, I politely said I had heard via S but it wasnt his place to discuss our accounts with so I was expecting H to phone me, as it was his problem, again he seemed to sound hurt as if I was intimating it was his choice he had to live with it! but I reiterated that it wasnt HIS problem more that he was the one with the problem with our account. But we agreed I could go ahead and pay it so thats a relief. I also owned up to changing the password because of the fraud which he didnt seem to have a problem with.
Also when he stated that I could phone him, I said, I dont really know what else to say to him and he has heard what I think already. But he replied I can always phone him about money and important things. H asked after the cat and madam, so told him cats face was healing and madam was fine, although she bit me for brushing her too hard yesterday, not content with that he asked how my riding was coming along. Again so hard but I just said she was fine and we doing ok with the riding. It was so hard not to have a conversation with him, it could so easily have lapsed into chatting with an old friend, but I held back as much as I could without seeming to be rude..
He asked about post and I said his Italian lesson stuff was here and also a small parcel. Apparently its stuff for building a new computer, again he sounded down when he said he would have to build a new one, but not a peep outta me. He then said he would have to come and get some things, I replied well you know where I am! His reply was that " he would phone in a few days" Well Im not holding my breathe but I had been thinking about my goals today and the first one was that he would make contact more often than a week.
I have so much spinning round in my head, I hope I handled it well!
My Goals
For H to make contact more often than once a week. For H to want to come here of his own accord, Im not going to ask him too, although I know it might be because he needs to pick something up.
Now I need to go breathe and eat chocolate.
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W 47 H 47 M 24 T 30
Once lost but now found and happily married again!
