What will make her important enough for him to prioritize her in ways that may feel like stretching or sacrificing but worth it?
What makes her more than just a woman among many available attentive attractive women?
Respect
AKA: "Ben the school teacher" --- Me:45, W:41 | Ds:10,12&14 | M:18, T:20 Me: MLC+PA+WAS+Separated 10/08 My Request to Reconcile Denied 7/09 W w/OM 6/09-11/09
OK, I'm not a guy, but in my dating years I noticed guys either seemed to be leg women or chest women. Maybe that's just the college years though; I'm not sure...What was funny, since I'm chesty is lots of guys that liked chesty women liked me, but my 2 long-term Rs were with guys that were leg women.
I also noticed my friends that were more desperate or stalkerish didn't date as much. I mean they would be really confident, strong women but kind of like stalking or gifting guys all the time, and the guys would run in the other direction. So that's maybe what doesn't attract men.
Because, I look in the mirror and that's what I see (except for the short hair and bad bra, Thank God!). And, that's not what I would think is sexy. It's rather bland.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
@mindfull -- what you see in the article is the "real" JLC. Then on the opposing page, you see the Media / Red Carpet / "Tonight Show" JLC. Which she did to make the point, "Don't believe what you see" -- like the Death Star in "Star Wars" and Bruce the Shark in "Jaws," the "gorgeous actress" is Special Effects, not the Real World.
My point being, this notion that you're supposed to look like the #2 JLC is a notion -- not reality. But when, as she puts it, she "cleans up" -- but isn't "done up" by professional doer-uppers -- she looks just dandy, as in here: Jamie Lee Again.
She smiles easily. She laughs a lot. She isn't overly critical and does have a kind thing to say and says it often. She isn't always finding fault in everything around her.
She takes care of herself and does the best with what she has.
I'm a man . . . But I can change . . . If I have to . . . I guess . . .
Is this thread about what makes you aroused? Or what makes you attracted enough to really invest in a relationship.
Yes, there are lots of objectively attractive people in the world. But one isn't "attracted" to them all. Attraction separates / dscriminates / chooses from among them.
From my POV, attraction has nothing to do with wanting to work on a relationship. That's totally different. That question is, "Why do people commit to relationships," not "Men, what qualities make a woman attractive to you?"
And "arousal" is still another thing - not every person one finds attractive and dates, for example, is arousing. "There just wasn't a spark" - a not-uncommon report after a date with someone one found "attractive."
Attract is one thing but women want to know what makes a man want to step up and put energy into a relationship (once the sexual conquest is accomplished). What makes him want to be her man, carry some weight, put effort into a relationship etc...
"(once the sexual conquest is accomplished)" thats easy, she needs to want to dress up like Connie Conehead and toss the furry sensor ring.
Prymaat, Shall we play some Ring Toss before dinner? Yes. That would be pleasurable, Beldar.
