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[RedSoxFan]

I tell her this but she says that she does share and does accept.

Why don't you believe her?

I do believe her. Thats what she thinks. That doesn't mean either or both of us are or are not correct, right? Ultimately I used the term feels because I'm not sure its fact. I know that its what I feel. I believe it bares out in fact but it seems like I somehow lack confidence to stand up for myself or something!? Not sure.

First, I always feel like she uses double standards. I feel as though she holds me to a different standard than herself.

Second, I feel like even though I am responsible for probably 75% of the problems in the relationship, she holds me accountable for 100% and never truly accepts her part.

I feel like for years I've just wanted to have her share some of it with me.

Lot of feeling going on. It's good to have feelings, do you understand why you feel the way you do? While women want men who "feel" they don't want a man who lets his emotions lead him. What do you think she meant when she said "she does share and accept" ?

well, she basically disagreed with me about the 75/25 thing and then proceeded to spend 10 minutes telling me why everything was my fault. I pointed it out and she didn't have a response. I go back and forth between thinking that I am at fault but unwilling to accept 100% responsibility and being mostly at fault but deserving some shared responsibility.

Using words like always and never are signs of pessimistic thinking. Google - Martin Seligman and "Learned Optimism"

Damn, you are good Coach. The pessimism is a chronic problem for me. I have been working on it for years and have improved dramatically. Often I go back through and delete the always and never. If you've noticed in my posts over the last week or two I've become very negative and pessimistic. I really need to figure out how and why I'm sliding into negativism, pessimism and losing hope