Hey, I had a fun weekend with friends. I went "dark" this weekend and H only called Sunday. Wasn't home first call, second call was during d's nap and third call, we were at a party. H called today and I reminded him of D5 back to school night so I think he'll be there. He did ask if my girls went to my mom's Sat night, I said nope... friday night.
I joined a single parents group and have met lots of nice people. Been hanging out with a guy who is going through a D and his daughter. Nice to have friends. I'll try and call you this week.
H knows how I feel, knows my preference would be to work on R, but he's "in love" and I gotta stop trying to figure him out. Will have a nice "picnic" meanwhile.
I did see "he's not that into you" and realized...H is just not that into me right now.
I did update my profile pic on my official FB page - a pic that my single friend took of me and the girls on Sunday. Wonder if H will notice since the last pic was of the four of us.
Trying to detach and make a go of my current life as is.
HIW M 35 H 37 D 5, D 2 Married 1996 Dating 1992 Met 1988 EA/PA started March 2009 Bomb 6/16/2009 Separated 6/23/2009
Back to school night yesterday. H showed up late. I didn't wait for him and walked alone. He went by the house saw the girls and walked as well. We walked home together and he asked me what I did this weekend. I told him in general terms but not too specific. He stuck around with the girls until bedtime. I asked him if he was going to pick them up on Thursday. He said yes and that they would hang at the house and then maybe go to dinner. "It's my birthday". I said "I know". He asked if I wanted to come to dinner too (somewhat unenthusiastically). I said that I didn't have plans so sure.
Game plan: work late, call him and meet him for a drink at the restaurant - like he has done to me in the past.
I did get him the present - it will be from the girls, as will the card.
Hey, I read somewhere that doing the LRT was different for a WAS than for a WAS involved in an affair. Any thoughts? Please???
Last edited by hopeinwaiting; 09/09/0906:09 PM.
HIW M 35 H 37 D 5, D 2 Married 1996 Dating 1992 Met 1988 EA/PA started March 2009 Bomb 6/16/2009 Separated 6/23/2009
Not really that patient, but trying. I've only been at this since June. I see men and women on here that have been living though this he!! for many months or even years and I think - Dear God, I don't think I can do that!
Today is H 38th b-day. Really hard for me not to call or celebrate him. I will see him tonight, but it won't be very fun for me.
It seems that many of the more successful cases that I've read on this forum include women coming home. I wonder if men (WAS) find it harder to come home or just don't place the same value on the importance of family. Not throwing stones at men, just wondering.
I did set up a DB coaching session for the 18th. H didn't call yesterday and I guess he is just getting used to his new life and new found "freedom", whatever that means.
HIW M 35 H 37 D 5, D 2 Married 1996 Dating 1992 Met 1988 EA/PA started March 2009 Bomb 6/16/2009 Separated 6/23/2009
Ok, starting to freak out. H is picking up the girls and then going to the house and then dinner for his birthday. Do I call to ask where to meet them, do I just go home and see if he calls???? Help, please.
HIW M 35 H 37 D 5, D 2 Married 1996 Dating 1992 Met 1988 EA/PA started March 2009 Bomb 6/16/2009 Separated 6/23/2009
What do you want to do? If this were a very good friend of yours what would you do? It's a special occasion. Call him. He's still your H and you are planning to celebrate this special occasion with him. It's all good and the normal thing to do would be to call and figure out plans if they aren't finalized.
It seems that many of the more successful cases that I've read on this forum include women coming home. I wonder if men (WAS) find it harder to come home or just don't place the same value on the importance of family. Not throwing stones at men, just wondering.
Funny. I was thinking the exact opposite. I guess it is easy to look at these situations through very pessimistic lenses.
Hang in there HIW. People tell me that things always get better at some point.
Hang in there HIW. People tell me that things always get better at some point.
They do. I didn't believe it when I first got here, but I can tell you first hand things get better.
I wish I could take the level of detachment I have today and give it to every single new person that finds their way in here. In my opinion it is the most important thing to get down as quickly as possible. But it's a catch 22 - you won't get it till you get it, and it usually takes a crap load of misery to get you there.
If you aren't totally detached from the spouse and the outcome it comes out in so many different ways.
MySitch Me-47 STBXW-41 D-5 S-8 ILYBNILWY-01/08 Want a D- 01/09 Physical Sep-01/10 D filed-06/10 Got 50% custody=09/11 Ride that wave!
