I think you need to destroy her little fantasy where she divorces you, takes your kids, your house, your money, moves in a new man, and you are there to support her in her new life as he friend. YUCK!
Exactly!!! And the foot rubbing and the like is not going to do that. If she's having an A, which she is judging by the refusal to defriend the guy (feel like a teen typing that), but I think you need to pull way back. If you still are interested in having the marriage anyway. If you just want to divorce and be friends with her, then keep doing what you're doing....
