Kevin did you ever think that God is waiting for you to change before your wife comes home. You are standing for your M good for you. But God will only do it on his time and when he knows it is right. If you never change you could be standing for your M the rest of your life. Change, detach and let God do the work on your W. The only work Kevin needs to do is work on Kevin. If it takes 10 years for God to bring your W home are you still going to be emailing her asking her to come home?
"Seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well" Matthew 6:33