I made the apology before I relaized she was drunk. She hides it well.

My soon to be ex wife (there I said it!) just came home to pack a few things since she is staying in a motel room for a few days. I think she needs to be away from everyone for a couple days. I had been crying just before she got here and have been having my worst day since this crisis began. I spoke to her very little, but I sure as heck didn't come across as strong and confident. I just can't get it together enough to apply db principles. I will get my act together before kids come home from school.

I am estranged from my family and really have no close friend, so I think I really do need to see a therapist/counselor to help get through this. When I calm down, I know that regardless of the outcome I will be ok and my kids will be too. The problem is getting from here to there.

Everyone keeps saying to give her space and pay no attention, and I know that's the right thing to do. I just have to do it.
I make this promise to myself and my fellow db'ers - I will not contact her, will not talk about relationship or future (unless she brings it up), and I will leave her alone.


50 years old.

Ontario, Canada

Loving Marriage #2 with the perfect person.