Being a whole person . . . that has been something so valuable I have learned, mostly the realization that I am NOT an extension of my H and I am NOT responsible for his decisions. I am ME by myself.
We LBSs are absolutely going through our own midlife "transitions," looking at ourselves in the mirror long and hard and deciding what stays and what goes and what changes and what is important and what isn't. We are just doing it in a different way, without having a tantrum and throwing those we love under the bus.
