I am very confused I read your whole thread! You apologized when she was drunk, I am thinking you should do it when she is sober. I don't know what to say except as hard as it is NO CONTACT unless it is an emergency that involves the KIDS.

Stop dwelling it is not healthy, been there done that! You aren't in a position with the roller coaster to do anything effectively right now, you react instead of act. Get control of yourself find out how your kids are doing, go to a therapist, check and see if the kids want one also.

Essentially you need to stop caring about the outcome in regards to your marriage. Make amends for your behavior and that is that, I don't know what else can be said, but if you go through this without caring for the outcome you can act nobelly and honestly. That gives you the best chance to salvage what you can for your children and yourself.

Regardless of what any of us do or say, there isn't a right answer but we all know smothering doesn't work and right now she doesn't want any attention from you. Give her what she wants walk right past her and don't pay her any mind, don't be rude but don't be interested either.

Please right now get a hold of yourself until you can start sleeping again, we don't think as clearly and we aren't as solid when we aren't sleeping especially on a regular basis.

God bless and good luck to you and your family.


Married:10 years
D final 8/28/08 10 minutes is all it took
Life goes on and DB was no small part in growing from the Divorce!