Yeah. I guess I just had to, at an early age, BE teh adult for my mother. Shehas some real issues to deal with - bipolar not being the least of them.
I also have a sister who took it upon herself to b!tch out my W for not "letting me" come "home" for Christmas early on in our M. Very much like your sitch.
Since I grew up with the D'd family, with all my extended family in the same town, my holidays growing up were like progressive dinners on steroids. I would hit 3 different households on the particular holiday.
When I got M'd, I knew some day we would have kids and I did not want my kids having to do that. I didn't want my W to either. So, I just made it a rule that my W and I would have our holidays in OUR home, and whoever was more than welcome to come to us for the holiday. My W's parents always have been with us, so I'm sure that bred a certain amount of resentment with some of my family.
You know what to do. Your family won't shut you out. Your W just might if she thinks you're not on her side.
