There is a very good chance she will come to her own awakening about staying in her marriage. But only when you have made yourself happy and carry on as if the marriage no longer exists. No more pressure on her. Any talk should only be about the kids.
You need to be thinking this mantra...
My wife is gone. I dont need my wife, but I want her.
My marriage is over. I dont need my marriage, but I want my marriage.
I am just speaking from my own experience where I enforced strong boundaries with consequences and learned to detach from the dark period she was going through. She saw my increased strength and happiness and ultimately asked for another chance. But, I had actually discovered her true character, lack of emotional strength and I was much happier without her and let the divorce finalize.
