Fourth, my H pulled the ILBINILWY speech on me in December of 2007.
Issue #1 - This was after a few years of "my" waning interest in a sex life with him. I always enjoyed sex with him, but was so "busy" with three children, a career, a new 10,000 square foot house we had just completely restored, etc...
Issue #2 - H didn't want this house. He felt bullied into it by me. He wanted to buy it (we got it on foreclosure), put $100k into it, and flip it. The more we did to the house, the more I loved it, and we ended up here. He wanted to stay in our 3,500 sq. ft. 2-story that we could have paid off in a few years... I won, or did I?
Issue #3 - Financial stress. Between the new house, and my HIGH/low income fluctuations, our old house not selling right away, the existence of a pretty expensive lake house, etc..., we were getting tapped. THEN, the tax man came knocking... (late Nov/early Dec), and we now have a HUGE tax burden, along with a HUGE tax attorney and CPA bill do deal with...
Issue #4 - History of headaches w/D18's Dad. He made things miserable all the time. Full of drama. She completely cut all communication with him when she was 15, so the drama is gone, but she remained, and became a bit of a pain. They get along great, but he isn't much of a disciplinarian with her (on a daily basis), so he always thought we "just didn't get along." He would step in when it was something serious... That whole dynamic is now much better.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
