What Attracts a Man to a Woman?

[RedSoxFan]

Several of the ladies on the forum have noticed that there is much quality discussion about what women find attractive in men but not so much on what men find attractive in women. Here's a general thread for us guys to share some thoughts.

Guys, let's hear it?

[givingitmyall]

-"Sexiness." And it can, but doesn't have to, be strictly looks. But it is more of the looks with a playful, come hither attitude.

-Intelligence.

-Interest in what I'm doing or what's important to me. (This is a two way street BTW).

-Consideration.

-Initiative.

-Willingness to try new things.

-Spontenaity.

[RedSoxFan]

Bump

[Steve McQueen]

What Attracts a Man to a Woman?

DUH !

[RedSoxFan]

Physical Attraction
I think this varies widely from man to man. For me I go more for unique and exotic over sports illustrated. Sometimes she's aggressive and dominant, other times she's gentle and submissive.

Sexiness
It's all about the aura and how she carries herself. She owns the world, she has bounce in her step. She's confident. She knows who she is.

Nurturing (not sure if this is the right word)
She loves her family. Is a wonderful mother. Is loyal to and protects her family with unrelenting fierceness.

Tenderness/Caring (not sure of the label)
Is feminine, vulnerable and warm. Makes me feel important and strong. Makes me want to lay down my jacket while she walks over a puddle or lay down my life to save her from a runaway bus.

Most of all its the combination of these things that attracts me to a woman. All rolled up into one package. Each working when it's supposed to like a well oiled machine.

[SmileysPerson]

Because I'm a superficial mo-fo, I'm going to go All Superficial, All The Time.

Looks.

Looks attract a man to a woman. Everything else comes after.

Ahhhh, but "which" looks? What looks? How looks?

Here's which-what-how:

Look your best. Whatever your best is. Not Jennifer's best; not Angelina's best; not airbrushed cover of Cosmo best.

Your best.

I live in the Plastic Surgery Capital of America. Guess what? It never looks right. You see a woman, her face as smooth as a cue-ball. But her hands? The hands of an aging woman. Wrinkled. Worn. Experienced. Liver-spotted. What-have-you.

That looks BAD. Because you don't think, "Oh, what a lovely face." You think, "Who the h*ll does she think she's kidding?" or "Wow, has she had some work done!"

I used to tell Mrs. SP -- back when I was allowed to comment on her physical person -- all the time: Go with whatcha got. Maximize it. Don't pinch pennies at the hairdresser. Want to spend some bucks on a manicure? Okay, good, but you're 40-something -- don't get Hot Pink with the little embedded sparkles. Leave that for the girls.

In other words, women, look like the woman you are. One of the hottest, couldn't-keep-my-hands-off-her women I ever knew in college, off whom I couldn't keep my hands, was "heavy." But she dressed well, she had pride in herself, she had confidence in her abilities -- she was every bit of woman she could be and then some.

And it was H - O - T hot.

So that's my $0.02. What attracts me to you is the way you look. The way YOU look.

[aliveandkicking]

Attract is one thing but women want to know what makes a man want to step up and put energy into a relationship (once the sexual conquest is accomplished). What makes him want to be her man, carry some weight, put effort into a relationship etc...

What will make her important enough for him to prioritize her in ways that may feel like stretching or sacrificing but worth it?

What makes her more than just a woman among many available attentive attractive women?

iPhone impaired typing...

[SmileysPerson]

What will make her important enough for him to prioritize her in ways that may feel like stretching or sacrificing but worth it?

What makes her more than just a woman among many available attentive attractive women?

There's no answer for this. There's as many answers as there are men (and the women to ask it).

This thread derives from @mindfull's thread, where a discussion was starting over messages she may or may not have received about her looks.

I used to be this guy:
What will make her important enough for him to prioritize her in ways that may feel like stretching or sacrificing but worth it?

Now I'm not so sure I am anymore. So even there we have at least 2 answers -- then and now.

[thegoodfight]

Class, substance, neat, confident, in reasonable shape (kind of goes with neat), character. Flirty, but not flaunty, sassy but not disrespectful, adventerous but not wild! Exciting but not boistorous.

Balance within an individual either man or woman, and the ability to communicate and listen closely is very attractive. I think you get the drift.

[SmileysPerson]

What I'm talking about:

Jamie Lee Curtis