Guilt, confusion and fear yield changing moods. You may feel like you are living with a Manic Depressive—perhaps you are, but Midlife Crisis is like Manic Depression; it doesn’t mean your spouse is clinically diagnosable as Bipolar. Some change moods every few minutes, whereas others may change over weeks. They may manifest through anger, reckless behaviour or passivity. Some change their minds about leaving every few minutes or weeks, while others leave and seem consistent with their choice. What is noticeable is that they seem like a different person some or all of the time.
In order to avoid Self-reflection and responsibility, the MLCer blames the spouse. Often he will rewrite history, stating the marriage has been falling apart for years. Midlifers hurl accusations: you are the bad guy, you are in denial, you are the one who is confused, you are vindictive; often these are all things the MLCer subconsciously feels about himself.
I read from this site often. It gives me the daiy reminders that this is her path.
The site was created by a former ( if there is such a thing ) DB'er.
Very wise and has seen a lot in her day...
Many of the "Old Timers" will remember her story from here.
Rollercoasterrider I believe was her posting name.....
TIF, FG, Cat04, This really is not about us ya know....
