They have. Hell my wife did too. Said the same things over and over again. Our arguments became standard, rote. My complaints were repeated over and over again as well. Why change for her when she won't change for me? Complacent stupid logic. We take our spouses for granted, both the good and the bad.
When I say I am GLAD this happened, when I say I am grateful, I am not lying, I am not smelling roses in a cess pool, because I have a polly anna outlook.
I am glad this happened, because I have taken complancentcy and destroyed it. I strive every day. I listen to my wife when she talks and realize that it could be someone else listening to her talk...endlessly : ) ...about her day.
These women HAVE complained to their husbands. Dollars to Donuts.
And you know what?
Sadly it takes something like this to wake them up, sadder when those husbands...those spouses FAIL to look in the mirror and see their own contributuions to a failing marriage. Those are the people who get stuck, those are the people who will walk the same path in future relationships, be it with their spouse, or someone else. History repets itself if patterns are not changed.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
