actually it was a few guys--separately--who told me that. And they were straight.

Well then they were also a**holes. F*ck that. And if that's a message that @mindfull has been getting from "friends," then f*ck them too.

As far as I'm concerned, until a man can be a Calvin Klein model, he's got no g*ddam business telling a woman she's "let herself go."

What tools! In fact, not just tools -- wedges, the simplest of tools.