Hi! I'm doing well. Leaving for vacation tomorrow. Ready to turn off my brain for a few days.
I've been talking to a bunch of women who all seem to be in the same boat. The logic is driving me nuts, so if anyone can explain this it would go a long way to making my brain hurt less. It is the same scenario, different women. It's not really about my W, but could very well be.
Been married for years. Some need is missing or not getting met. They're miserable and feeling bad about themselves. They're stuck and start looking to get the need met elsewhere. I've seen this over and over again on the boards here, too. To a person, I hear, I can't tell my husband how I feel. They want this need met, just not by their spouse.
That last part is the one I really don't get. My first response is ... say something to your husband. He probably wants to meet this need you have and has no idea you are missing something. I know that many women HAVE tried to say something and been ignored or dismissed. That's not what I'm talking about here. If you know you need something, why don't you say something? This could easily be applied to men, but it seems to be the same story I hear with every married woman I know. Anyone?
