Mywife has asked for a legal separation the papers are being drown up as we speak and the house will go up for sale in the next week as well. I have two daughters 3 and 6. My wife come to me 6 months ago and said her is done with me and my attitude. She said I have been verbally abusive for the last two years and do not respect her. I have gone to and continue to go to anger management classes for the last three months she said she sees a change but feels it will not be permanent. Her parents are wealthy and will help her by a place once the separation goes thru. She refuses counseling. I am not sure what a person can be thinking to take action that reduces the amount of time she has with the children by half. In my opinion doing what MY WIFE has done should not be an option without attempting to make the marriage work first. If our children had a say in all of this they would want to know their mom and dad tried everything possible to keep the family unit together, and to ensure the kids got every opportunity in life. There are many men that commit adultery, have alcohol or gambling problems, or subject their spouse to physical abuse. In these situations separation must happen but in the case where you have a man willing to work on the relationship and committed to his family I don't think separation should be an option - not without professional help and a sincere effort to work on things. One of the most challenging things is that these women seem to have no emotion…they have emotionally detached themselves somehow from all of those that love them more than anything - not sure how. I have noticed changes with her, buying new cloths wearing very sexy underwear which I have not seen on her in 12 years if ever. I only notice that because I am doing a lot of the laundry. She is more conscious of her looks getting her eye brows waxed nicely and fingernails manicured needless to say a new hair style and color a bolder blond blond blond. She is constantly in the bathroom in front of the mirror looking at herself like consumed. Between the hair produces new perfumes etc, I am not sure if any of the bills are being paid. I have found signs that she is putting money down on the bills but just the minimum payments. I am keeping an eye on this. She has purchased and read more style and people magazines than ever. Consumed and focused on herself, no energy directed at me and seemingly smaller doses directed towards her children. She is into this, it's your turn to deal with the kids I did it last time. It your turn to get them water I did it last time. My turn your turn routine. A confused and mentally drained dad.
