Newbie (again)

[kat727]

I think everyone looks back to see if there might have been a time when things may have ended up differently if we had done such and such instead. Really, it may not have mattered at all because our spouses were already off into fanatasy land. It is kind of like dangling a carrot, they kept us a round enough until they knew they could leap safely to the next ship.

Don't beat yourself up, you tried. As for your friend, have him focus on making him feel good about himself. Get involved in activities he enjoys but maybe stopped doing for various reasons. You never know who will be able to save the relationship. We just have to give it a try.

kat