I wish I had more money for toys for me! Of course, I am on this big decluttering kick so anything that takes up space at this point looks superfluous to me and I don't want it. I have spent more money on playing/entertaing the kids lately than I normally would, so I guess that's my release. Money is one area that I have had to let go in a huge way, and it is one area I do feel he is testing me in. Always. Cat, like you I have realized in the whole scheme of things there is so much more that is more important and that has helped (though if I think about it too much I worry :)).
SR, I can totally understand where you are coming from in all of this. To discuss finances like we have a future together may/probably will come across as pressure or some kind of R talk in a way, so it is a fine line to try to figure out how to go about it.
I have spent more money on playing/entertaing the kids lately than I normally would, so I guess that's my release. Money is one area that I have had to let go in a huge way, and it is one area I do feel he is testing me in. Always. Cat, like you I have realized in the whole scheme of things there is so much more that is more important and that has helped (though if I think about it too much I worry :)).