You sound a lot like me - the more serious one, the worrier. My H too (pre MLC anyway) was always better at playing with the kids, and he is thankfully starting to get there on very small levels again. I guess I was too busy being "mom."
I have tried to see if there are patterns like his parents' in our marriage but I don't see a whole lot. He is not like his dad and I am not like his mom (or vice versa) at all, and our relationship and interactions have always been quite different.
It is painful sitting back and watching him seek the approval of whoever because he doesn't accept the approval he gets. He has gotten a lot of positive feedback through work, etc. and yet he doesn't accept it, says blah blah blah about it. I used to push more, but why can't you accept it, etc., but I have just let it be. He needs to look within himself for that.
