Yes, I agree that we all play a part and have to look at ourselves and own things we may have done. We had a marriage that up until the months leading up to the bomb was "good." Really, no big problems. Yes, we had our occasional fights and like most couples with small kids didn't spend enough time alone together, but nothing that warranted all the anger/outlash/etc. I had actually starting noticing changes I wanted to make about myself pre-bomb and had started doing that, and I really think that may be why post-bomb his anger (at least outward that I could see) toward me to a major slow down and stop quite quickly. Things he was doing to push my buttons no longer did, etc. I have barely seen any anger towards ME in quite awhile.
Trying to sort it all out just about makes my brain explode so I have tried right now to just be me and make changes I want and let him figure out himself.
