Hey JR, Sounds like you kept busy this past weekend - that's great to hear - and a good way to be reminded of who you are outside of your own thoughts and emotions.
I agree with Michelle, you are being very thoughtful and considerate of your W's needs - and it shows a lot of love on your part - a healthy kind of love. Getting to that place of being lovingly detached is so hard - but it's just such a different place to be...and it yields a lot more calm understanding of what we have to do next...maybe not a better understanding of how and why things fell apart - but certainly a better sense of how and why we have to continue to push forward.
It's a good discipline to avoid the mind-reading and wondering why...sometimes I think that mind-reading is like trying to pinpoint a spot in a swirl of emotions and then responding to that spot as if it were indicative of the entire swirl...and that's just impossible.
From another perspective - I think if someone were to try to make sense of me based on stuff I say when emotionally twisted, they would come away with a very different impression of who I am when I'm not feeling so emotional, vulnerable and confused. I think the same goes for the people we love...which is why it's often best just listen to what they have to say - and then offer our love without expectations.
