Of course you don't. No one likes being manipulated especially by someone as nacissistic as him. That is why setting BOUNDARIES are so important. You need to know that this is his problem. You CANT HELP/CHANGE him ONLY her can do that.
Just focus on making you happy. If you dont... who will??? HIM??
Im guessing that's one of things that attracted him to you in the first place. His confident, assertive attitude. Now you see that a lot of that comes from SELFISHNESS.
Has he ever been caring or thoughtful of your feelings???