It seems like I will go through periods of feeling more positive, and then I go through periods of feeling more hopeless. I think it just feels like it is getting harder to get up lately and be motivated.
It is something I have to snap myself out of again.
Kevin
This is why you NEED to detach, ASAP...You're letting her control your feelings.
Me:40 W: 39 T: 17 years M: 15 years S-9 D-6 D final 11/10/2009
"We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as insoluble problems."
Actually (and I don't mean this unkindly), it's more like you are losing control of your feelings, period.
Was there anything the W did that set you off on that email?
Me 42 W 39 Married: 11 Jan 1998, T: Since 1992 First Bomb: Sep 2007 Confirmed A/OM: 4 Nov 2007 Kids: D10, S5 Reconciled and together again after (alot of) time and heartbreak. 3rd kid, S, born 2 Jan 2010.
I think it is just that I am extremely tired of this situation. It has been a year now since all of this began. I just keep wondering how long can she keep this up.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Actually (and I don't mean this unkindly), it's more like you are losing control of your feelings, period.
I feel that way at times.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I just keep wondering how long can she keep this up.
Kev until you realize she COULD keep this up forever you are never going to get anywhere...You have all the tools you need you just need to put them to use.
Remember detaching DOES NOT mean giving up.
Me:40 W: 39 T: 17 years M: 15 years S-9 D-6 D final 11/10/2009
"We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as insoluble problems."
I think it is just that I am extremely tired of this situation. It has been a year now since all of this began. I just keep wondering how long can she keep this up. Kevin
Wow!!! That sounds REALLY CONTROLLING Kevin. "How long can she keep this up???" She has FREE WILL... She could KEEP THIS UP!!! FOREVER if you DONT DETACH AND MOVE ON... Let her go Kevin. Show her REALLY LOVE by giving her what she WANTS which is to be LET GO... Maybe then someday she will RESPECT YOU for giving her what she asked for.... Remember she doesn't know what is best for her BUT SHE DOES KNOW WHAT SHE WANTS RIGHT NOW!!!
Search online for a local hunting club. Go to their next meeting. Are you a novice or expert or somewhere in between? Up here where I live the clubs are active. They have their own lands and schedule hunts. You will meet some new people there. In my experience almost all of the members are very friendly.
I think that you need to start filling your time with anything except sitting at home an thinking about your situation. You need to get busy. Volunteer. Fill those empty moments so that you don't send emails to your wife.
I'm sorry Kevin.
I'm a man . . . But I can change . . . If I have to . . . I guess . . .
you need to think of it like death. she is not coming back.
This is a worldy view. I refuse to believe this one.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
