As for the locked bathroom door. Umm, to be honest I've done it too, sometimes I just needed the space. Wouldn't necessarily read too much into it perhaps?
Instinctively, I think you're right; wait-and-see. The real point was, @mindfull has -- no criticism implied -- a lot of discussions on her thread with some of the other ladies, and they are really, really focused on clothes and weight.
Okay, American women, body-image, etc. -- what else is new?
But I'm afraid -- and I use that adjective deliberately, "afraid" -- that @mindfull (you listening, friend?) thinks that by slimming down she's going to catch her H's eye.
Mrs. SP always had that going on in her mind, or at least always until she started slimming down for Signore Schmuckatelli (but that's another story on another thread).
I can speak only for myself and the couple hundred guys I know, so that's not a statistically significant sample (I need about 900 more guys to get there).
Yes, we like Miss December (and Misses January through November, too). Yes, we like Jennifer and Angelina and Madonna and all the rest of the hot celebutards.
They're hot because being hot is their job. They look hot and attract us because looking hot and attracting us is their job -- that's how their movies and magazine covers make money. That's also why they're celebrities and we're not -- they're exceptional (at least in that way).
Your job, wives, is being the women we love. We don't hold you to Madonna's standards, any more than we think you hold us to the standard of Michelangelo's David (at least in terms of the cutitude and buffitude -- if "size mattered" in old Jerusalem then it was a good thing David slew Goliath because he needed "something" to pitch to the ladies, LOL).
We "feel" for you. We have a depth of emotion for you. To borrow a phrase from Gertrude Stein, there's some "there" there for us.
So maybe Mr. Full is locking himself in the bathroom because he's shy. Or because the handyman cometh. Or because he needed space. Or because of any of a hundred things. Maybe he didn't even pay attention to locking the door, it was just one of those absent-minded moments. Who knows?
But that's my real point. Who knows? Only Mr. Full.
But I don't like this feeling I get that @mindfull "just needs to lose a couple pounds" and ol' Mr. Full will be knocking at her door come 3 in the a of m.
Girls, women, ladies -- if you want to slim down to get in the latest fashion, great. If you want to slim down to get your blood pressure under control, great. If you want to slim down to do a triathlon, a la Mrs. SP, great.
But don't slim down to "get" us. First, that's not how it works. Second, if that's what it takes to "get" us, do you really want us? I wouldn't, if I were you -- really, you came around because of my physical person? What happens when I'm old? What happens when I'm sick?
My Someone, for example, has a friend who's had a radical mastectomy. She and her H are struggling intensely with the impact on their sexual selves, as you can imagine. She fears not being a "complete" woman. Understandably. But I call attention to that word, "complete."
There's more to you, um, guys (wha'?) than meets the eye.
