There is certainly an advantage in having an email trail to refer back to -- it cuts down on the he-said-she-said. However even when you have documentation to back you up, the WAS will still find someway to try to deny their culpability or the words they've used. It can be maddening -- I guess that's why they say don't argue with crazy people.
I had another email exchange with xW again last night and this morning. She insists she's always on the up-and-up regarding communicating with me on our kids. She claims my complaints are just personal attacks driven by hatred and bitterness against her and the OM. She said that OM is a part of "their" lives (meaning her and the boys) and I need to just accept that. At the same time we're also quibbling over the childcare costs and figures she sent summary information for last night -- but I still want documentation and not her here-say.
I have been trying to convey to her that she is risking the emotional (if not physical) security of our S's by introducing OM into their lives. She just won't see the potential damage she can inflict on them by forcing this stranger on them as a de facto father-figure. Even if he happens to not be some child-abuser (and I have no assurances he isn't -- his MO is to involve himself in the lives of other people's children; this just creeps me out) the emotional turmoil could be great, if this person should suddenly go away after a falling out.
What is xW's response? She says, "Hm. You sound like you'd rather OM become the boys step-father sooner rather than later."
I responded to her bey saying that if her foolishness only affected herself alone, she could go right ahead. She just doesn't realize that I am no longer concerned with what she does anymore -- only where her actions and behaviors affect S8 and S4 would I bother to involve myself.
It would have been so much easier if we did not have kids between us -- I could have cut her out of my life forever, be done with her once and for all.
