Well, we talked last night. And just as I expected, it went the same way it always has before. Nothing is resolved, he dumped it all on me again- my insecurities. I don’t get it- Am I really that bad? I feel fine, happy and well-adjusted. He makes it sound like I can’t function in life, like I’m a scared little girl, afraid to leave safety of the house. He asked if I was a different person at work because he sees me have the “deer in the headlights” look pretty damn often. And he mentioned that he can’t give me constructive criticism without me getting defensive or “lashing out”. I’m not a screamer, so I guess he must mean when I point out to him when I think he’s off-base. There are times, he says, when he’s given up on trying to “help” me.
This is CLASSIC, textbook, narcissistic emotional abuse. You are not insecure, bunny, you are normal. In fact, you're pretty strong to be on as good of footing as you are right now.
