haha SP and Coach, you can both bring good advice and humor on the same platter.

But it does bring to mind, has anyone here had a spouse who went on an A with someone of the same gender? Would DB principles work?

There was some talk going around the Retrouvaille support group I help at on weekends about new sitch permutations that the presenters are struggling to help with. Well, particularly the more senior folks, they REALLY had never seen some of the problems cropping up nowadays.

I know of a very, VERY influential businessman in my community. I'm 41, people tell me I look at least 10 years younger - well he's in his 50's and he looks younger than I. He had an A and left his wife and 4 kids. Cosmetically enhanced? Just maybe. Goes around openly with his buff 20-something boyfriend these days I hear. Conventional and DB type wisdom would go out the window here methinks?

As for the locked bathroom door. Umm, to be honest I've done it too, sometimes I just needed the space. Wouldn't necessarily read too much into it perhaps?


Me 42
W 39
Married: 11 Jan 1998, T: Since 1992
First Bomb: Sep 2007
Confirmed A/OM: 4 Nov 2007
Kids: D10, S5
Reconciled and together again after (alot of) time and heartbreak.
3rd kid, S, born 2 Jan 2010.