Sounds like it could be bipolar. I have a bipolar family member who left his wife, got an appt., started a PA, etc. They reconciled 6 months to a year later and have been together now for over 5 years.
I do think a lot of WAS are addicts or have addictive personalities. Makes it tougher.
The best way to handle this is to stop any attempts to get her to come back. Stop any pursuit. Let her have her freedom. Drop the rope. Keep yourself super busy and GALing. What kind of GAL activities are you doing? I always recommend some kind of exercise, just walking if that's all you feel like.
File for temporary spousal support. Keep looking for a job. Spend a portion of each day turning in resumes; some jobs have you go in person and those are good to go to rather than just an anonymous face. I also do volunteer work and have gotten several jobs through that. I do believe the current economy is the toughest to get a job!!!
