Hello Kittyfish & Sandi2!

[dday101798]

What is it about your posts that get the better of me Dday?

Well, all I can really say is that there are a lot of similarities in nearly everyone's stories on here, yours in dangerously close to mine, and I guess I'm just trying to feed in all the mistakes I made to maybe, just maybe help yours out, you know, kind of the pay it forward approach.

I think it wasn't until my final thread I have going now in surviving that I did not lose my anger and frustration with the situation, and it damn near destroyed me. It's certanly done enough damage to the 'friendship' between my XW and I, so even if your M can't be saved, you may at least be better off in that sense. Wether your W likes it or not, you will always have 3 reasons to be in contact with each other and have to function together to a certain degree. I sumarize my sitch now as 'the war' is over, there is nothing left to fight about anymore, but we must exist as peacefuly as possible as neighbors on the planet called parenthood.

I'll have to find my thread in this forum as I'm sure I had a bit of ranting and carrying on that got me NOWHERE but delayed on the road to recovery (surviving). And I like you, at the time said to myself and everyone that I was fine and wouldn't blow a gasket, then all the sudden out of nowhere, it would happen, over and over, it just was a matter of time.

Maybe you are doing what is best for how you handle things, I don't know. I would say tho, be careful who and what you confide in with 'friends'. Best 'worst' case scinerio, they get worn out and turn away. Worst 'worst' case scinerio, they leak things back to your W, as unfathomable as you make think so, it DOES happen. The thought of D can be a scary concept to some people looking from the outside in, maybe something of their childhood, who knows, but they will report to W (perhaps indirectly amongst themselves) thinking they are helping protect you, when in fact it's doing the exact opposite. 'Nother lesson learned the hard way.