Well BigJohn, I'm going to have to catch up on your thread.
Hope, He probably does. my H's OW looked NOTHING like me. We couldn't be more opposite. Here's a funny story....one of the biggest fights they got into, his friend told me about. OW once asked H's friend and H "Who do you think is more attractive, me or Stronger?" Friend who never really liked her said "Stronger." H hesitated and said "You're both completely different and can't be compared." The safe answer I guess. Friend told me as the conversation progressed she kept pushing. So H seemed annoyed and said "Well, if you think about it, Stronger is more attractive." OW was pissed and wanted H to explain. So he said "Stronger is 10 years older than you, had a 9 pound baby and is still in better shape." Friend said she just stared at H. And then H seemed to get even more irritated. She told him "You're just saying that." He answered, "I said it because it's true. Stronger has worked her ass off, literally and I won't take that from her." Then OW starts in on faces. "Who has a prettier face?" Friend said without hesitation "You are two very different people with different racial backgrounds....I think you're both pretty." Apparently she didn't learn and pushed again, so H said "Stronger."
Friend said she didn't talk to him for more than a week and when she did, it was snide comments like "Go talk to your wife, if she's so hot."
And he did, that was in April. And that's when I noticed he seemed to be making more of an effort with us. Granted, we hit a huge bump in late may, early June, but worked through that too.
Also goes to show you, the OP's show their ugly sides....you just have to let them.
