Glad that the docs went OK for you. What you have to remember is that they are generalists though and have nothing to offer than empty words and lots of medicines! We can help you more here.
Sorry Rabbit but you have made me laugh about this poor old dear being in hospital. You have so fast forwarded to the funeral and are sorting that out in your mind that you haven't even given the poor lady time for her demise yet! It's very sad though and makes you wonder about love and life, doesn't it? I would say put that one on the back burner and just wait.
I think that some of the experts get a bit fed up with our struggles. They tell us what they believe that we should be doing and, although we try, we still pour our our negative feelings and continue our pity party for one. To me, that is all part of the process and what is not being seen is the evidence of how hard we are trying to do what they have advised us. I know that, personally speaking, my negativity this week has been caused by the amount of effort that I have put in to nc with H and for all that effort, someone (as you know) ranted at my me, me, me attitude!! Unbelievable - and hurtful when people are going through enough without being attacked on a board which is supposed to be supportive. Ah well, I see why that W left that H if that's what he is to live with!
We are still learning and this is going to take time. We can't help our panics in between times. I think that to read and re-read is good, although I have also had times where I feel that being here is negative - you become entrenched in nothing other than DB'ing and sadness. That pulls us down. I even found myself thinking on the way home today, "good, I can go see how the DB family are doing now" ... that's so wrong on so many levels.
Gucci said that it's OK to contact about financials, providing that you really have to and that it's not an excuse for caving in and pursuing. If we make this contact, I feel that it has to be the short, blunt and mysterious as well as the question which we want to ask - does that make sense? Then we must back off again ... that's how I see it anyhow.
I perfectly understand how you feel that nc is allowing H to jump off the responsibilty hook but isn't that what part of being an alien is all about? They are not coping with real life and they are running away ... we just have to step up to the plate and show them that we are capable - that we are coping - that they are missing out on their wonderful LBW's. Then, when they finally open their eyes, we can pounce and hit them with our new found knowledge and DB techniques!!
What most agree on is that DB'ing is much more difficult to do when you have a WAS. I hear that one.
WAH 43; W 47 M 16; T 17 Cats 15 & 6 Bomb 27/05/09 ow 28/06/09
"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"
